“The pleasures that we seek are not happiness at its peak, for it is contentment that gives true fulfilment” by The coach
As a mum of 4 , l understand the struggle women go through everyday, seconds, minute and hour. What are your struggles, Money, Career, Kids, Same routine everyday or feeling unfulfill? Nobody warns or tells you to preparing for some tough and happy choices you have to make when you start having kids. Children are gift from God and the fruit of the womb is the reward. They are so adorable and worth all the sacrifices but did you actually prepare for that career break of one , four or more years ?
Won’t it be just great if you had prepare for the stages involve in marriage or having kids? l wish l was more aware of the emotions that comes with marriage, career and family. Some moment of feeling unfulfilled and wondering if I took the right decision putting my career on hold to stay at home and look after the family.
Somedays when you bring out your iPad or Laptop and start searching for jobs and putting in applications because you just want to do more and have it all . The overwhelming feeling of following the same routine everyday and thinking of the plans you had when you were at university before getting married and where all these life ambition and dream is gone. Saying to yourself if only l can hire a nanny or childminder to stay with the kids why l work and earn lots of money for what l want and need.
Then another thought of how much is actually enough to satisfy you, missing out on your kids school performance, the moment they need reassurance , football and netball games, their drama and singing performance and their award evening .
You have days that you are grateful for everything and super happy for life. So proud of yourself and reassured that you are on the right path to fulfilment. Wow! won’t it be awesome to have it all?
One word that never stays with me when this thought comes is CONTENTMENT. You have your path to follow and everyones timing is different. The fact that your friends have their career before marriage and kids does not mean that you can’t have a career after marriage or kids but there is time for everything . We all are aiming for the same destination but routes and timing are different. Many people feel fulfilment from being parent, having a great job or graduating from school and getting married. You may not be where you want to be yet but it does not mean you won’t get there.
No matter where you are now , l want you to know that you are amazing and doing a brilliant job. We sacrifice to build a greater future for ourselves and kids whichever routes we follow . Your family, life, spouse, kids, career and positive friends are all the fulfilment you have. They are all around you, you just aren’t looking at the right direction. Live with a positive mind and a heart full of unconditional love and contentment. For everything God has blessed u with, be contented. The realisation of how blessed you are for what you have gives contentment . Remember that Contentment gives true fulfilment.
l will leave you with my favourite quote on FULFILLMENT by The coach From Raiseyourmind.com ” The pleasures that we seek are not happiness at its peak, for it is contentment that gives true fulfilment”.