Growing up we were taught to love our body  forever because the creator knows best and beauty is from within. What then change few years down the line? Should we say modernisation ,influence or social media that is telling us ,if we are not happy with what God has giving us we could change it.

Great number of women are not prepare to live or settle with the feature they are born with, instead willing to part with thousands of pounds on cosmetic procedures .Seeing so many influencers , celebrities on tv shows and just ordinary people like me every single day just make me feel left out or will l say the odd one out.

At 39 years old, l still get great compliments and quite happy with the features my mama gave me but can’t stop wandering if l need more or just an hyaluronic injection. l see lot of perfect shaped jawlines, cheeks and smooth foreheads at parties, malls, on social media platforms, bars and everywhere  l go , this got me thinking about my childhood.

Flash back to my teenage self, l remembered talking to my friends about celebrities and procedures. Procedures were not common then and used by older generations or celebrities to reverse ageing or wrinkles .Nobody wanted to be seen when going for it non talk about it but now a norm for the younger generation. Everyone want to be like the Kardashians, working three times more to save up just to go under the knife and look like someone else.

l believe that cosmetics is still a great opinion without going through injectables .Concealing and enhancing with makeup is more natural ,  will save you lot of money and won’t put you in danger of damaging your tissue if done by a wrong doctor.

Advice to my growing self, l do not want to look like someone else because Instagram is making cosmetic procedures grow so much and everyone is going to the same clinic, getting the same treatment and looking like twins. No, thank you l will pass on this one.

There is nothing wrong with enhancing your facial features if you love to do it  or have a medical reasons to but l think with my research so far l will stick to my super endure features and save up to travel and invest on other things.

As a mum and wife, it’s okay to look different after having kids .That is Mother Nature and let’s appreciate every changes that comes with it.

My journey to motherhood has been amazing and would not have it otherwise. God has created me beautifully and wonderfully in his image and likeness .l might not be perfect with my small head, nose  and sexy lips but the thought of spending my savings and still looking unidentifiable or damage is enough to keep me away from the needle forever. l am saving my face.

Are you changing or saving your face? If you have or you are , l will love to know why in the comment below.Love to hear your story and learn from you.





“The pleasures that we seek are not happiness at its peak, for it is contentment that gives true fulfilment” by The coach

As a mum of 4 , l understand the struggle women go through everyday, seconds, minute and hour. What are your struggles, Money, Career, Kids, Same routine everyday or feeling unfulfill? Nobody warns or tells you to preparing for some tough and happy choices you have to make when you start having kids. Children are gift from God and the fruit of the womb is the reward. They are so adorable and worth all the sacrifices but did you actually prepare for that career break of one , four or more years ?

Won’t it be just great if you had prepare for the stages involve in marriage or having kids? l wish l was more aware of the emotions that comes with marriage, career and family. Some moment of feeling unfulfilled and wondering if I took the right decision putting my career on hold to stay at home and look after the family.

Somedays when you bring out your iPad or Laptop and start searching for jobs and putting in applications because you just want to do more and have it all . The overwhelming feeling of following the same routine everyday and thinking of the plans you had when you were at university before getting married and where all these life ambition and dream is gone. Saying to yourself if only l can hire a nanny or childminder to stay with the kids why l work and earn lots of money for what l want and need.

Then another thought of how much is actually enough to satisfy you, missing out on your kids school performance, the moment they need reassurance , football and netball games, their drama and singing performance and their award evening .

You have days that you are grateful for everything and super happy for life. So proud of yourself and reassured that you are on the right path to fulfilment. Wow! won’t it be awesome to have it all?

One word that never stays with me when this thought comes is CONTENTMENT. You have your path to follow and everyones timing is different. The fact that your friends have their career before marriage and kids does not mean that you can’t have a career after marriage or kids but there is time for everything . We all are aiming for the same destination but routes and timing are different. Many people feel fulfilment from being parent, having a great job or graduating from school and getting married. You may not be where you want to be yet but it does not mean you won’t get there.

No matter where you are now , l want you to know that you are amazing and doing a brilliant job. We sacrifice to build a greater future for ourselves and kids whichever routes we follow . Your family, life, spouse, kids, career and positive friends are all the fulfilment you have. They are all around you, you just aren’t looking at the right direction. Live with a positive mind and a heart full of unconditional love and contentment. For everything God has blessed u with, be contented. The realisation of how blessed you are for what you have gives contentment . Remember that Contentment gives true fulfilment.

l will leave you with my favourite quote on FULFILLMENT by The coach From ” The pleasures that we seek are not happiness at its peak, for it is contentment that gives true fulfilment”.